Today is Monday, November 5, 2007

and I am thankful for:

• Lessons learned. Life lessons you learn just by living from day to day. I've learned so much over the years and I keep what I learn. I am thankful that I can apply what I learn to new situations.
• Depression no more. I was talking with my mom the other day and she was telling me how proud she is of my growth over the past two years. She mentioned my temporary depression and how proud she was that I came out of it without her help. I am thankful that I applied what God gave me to overcome that crying affair with the couch.
• The $100 I found in my purse this morning! Yes, I found 5 twenty dollar bills folded up in my purse this morning. The Universe is GOD and good to me!
• This forum to share my blessings with.
• Abuse NO MORE. I am so happy that I am no longer living an abusive life. I am so thankful that I have learned to identify the characteristics of an abusive person. I can now avoid all of that and not make the same mistakes I've made in the past.
• The fact that I no longer attract abusiveness into my life. I have learned to love me unconditionally and I accept nothing less from the outside world. If you can't love the way I love me or better, then there is no room for you in my life.
• The fact that my children recognize the above and are living it in their lives as well.
• The fact that I have so much to be thankful for. Life is good. God is good. The Universe is most splendid to me.

Have a most splendid day!

Lifetime Drama Part III

Shortly after the threesome incident, we moved to Nebraska. During the entire two years there I was angry with God for allowing my husband to succumb to such sin. I felt that if I was a good wife and did what I was told and suppose to do, then every one around me would behave as well. I was so wrong. Lesson learned: It's not always about me. It's not all about me.

While in Nebraska, he asked me to take a polygraph regarding all the stuff from the past he was constantly hounding me about. The test would also include other questions he had that I knew nothing about. He promised that things would be better if I took the test. He promised to be nicer to me. He promised he'd be a better husband. Well I took the polygraph test and passed it. Things didn’t change. They got worse. After the test he told me he didn't believe in them. He spent $300 for something he claimed he didn't believe in. Lesson Learned: Never compromise who you really are to appease someone else's insecurities.

Shortly after the polygraph, he contacted an old girlfriend to apologize for taking her virginity and then marrying me. He kept the email relationship against my wishes. I begged him to stop emailing her. I warned him of the dangers of this type of relationship. He said this was something he had to do and if he had to choose he’d choose his “friendship” with this other woman over his marriage with me. It was then that I emotionally checked out of the relationship. Lesson Learned: It's not all about me. I have to love me more than I love you.

After I emotionally checked out I made plans to leave. He told me he would never divorce me unless I cheated on him. Well, I knew I could make that happen. I pursued a sexual affair with someone he warned me to stay away from just to get back at him and get my divorce. When I told him about my affair, he said he would never divorce me. That was so wrong. I deeply regret my decision to compromise my values. Lesson Learned: Always be true to you. Never let your fears rule your life.

When we moved back to South Carolina, Tony continued his online relationship with Nikkole. I began to seek more counseling at First Baptist Church to help me. This time it was better than the first time. I only saw the married adult minister a few times until I thought it was enough. Lesson Learned: Seek professional help, not laymen's help.

Today is Sunday, November 4, 2007

and I am thankful for:

• a change in time. I woke up an hour earlier this morning. Yay!
• that I had a good relationship with my grandmother. Today would have been her 84th birthday. I miss her, but losing her brought me closer to my mom. We were always close, but that incident brought us closer.
• the Spirit I have within me. God made me a spirit being and I love it.
• I am no longer in that debilitating depression that had me couch bound during my separation.
• healing. Emotional, mental, and physical healing.
• personal growth and development. Sometimes growing pains hurt, but the end result is always a better you, an improved you.
• Alone time. I love it.

Today is Saturday, November 3, 2007

and I am thankful for:

• a good night sleep last night
• a new job I start in two weekss
• Allan Michael's love and affection
• friends who are like family
• Spongebob Square Pants
• a car that's paid for and runs
• the love a wonderful man people call "good people"

Today is Friday November 2, 2007

and I am thankful for:

• beautiful healthy skin
• the fact that I can give a resignation and still have my job if the new one doesn't work out (they want me bad over here)
• my mom who always encourages me and supports me
• the school my youngest sons attend. That school has such a positive energy, community, staff, and administration
• the bright blue sky today
• coworkers and employees who appreciate me
• the talent God put in me to be successful, analytical, and friendly
• all of my online buddies who read and appreciate this

Have a beautiful day.

Just Sharing

The principal at my sons' school sends us email daily. Sometimes several times a day. Today she sent the following. It reminded me of this blog. I just felt like sharing.

Dear Lake Carolina Parents,

This morning I woke up weepy. Usually when I get weepy about Lake Carolina, it's because of something like our children singing, supporting each other, or reading for the very first time. But, this morning, my weepiness was due to seeing two little girls almost get hit by a car yesterday during dismissal. This near accident almost occurred even though I was in the street yelling "Stop, Stop, Stop," as well as Deputy Vance and Mr. Newton. The car didn't stop until through the crosswalk, but thankfully our little girls did. Even as I write this to you, I am getting teary again. This driver was not a Lake Carolina parent, but I must share with you that parent, neighbor, visitor, or whoever, we don't need to go anywhere so quickly that we will put the life of a child or anyone in danger. No where.

There is a very popular book titled Good to Great by Jim Collins. In his book, he refers to "brutal realities." We have some brutal realities at Lake Carolina. Four of those realities are:
1- We have traffic.
2- We are not the only school with traffic.
3- We have a lot of precious children.
4- Dr. Lynch and her staff will not compromise the safety of our precious children to hurry traffic.

Please know that I realize that "we" are a very caring community. But, I need to be able to add to that descriptor during dismissal and arrival the word "Patient." We continue to do things daily that compromise the safety of children and quite frankly, even though it makes me sad, I completely understand why Deputy Vance is now writing tickets.

Please understand that in Richland District Two and at Lake Carolina, Safety DOES trump everything. I ask that you work with us as a community to make sure that arrival and dismissals are safe EVERY single day for ALL children. Remember, no where that we need to go is important enough to sacrifice the safety of ANY child or ANYONE.




Dr. James Ann Lynch
Lake Carolina Elementary
1151 Kelly Mill Road
Blythewood, SC 29016
P(803) 714-1300

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Today is Thursday November 1, 2007

and I am thankful for:

• friends and family who love me dearly
• Honest Allan Micheal who says I smell so good
• Charming William who makes me laugh everyday in some way
• Teenager TJ who is trying so hard to find his way
• my health
• my sweet sweet man who tells me he hates me in such a sarcastic way
• a salary that pays the bills
• a car that still runs
• work to do to keep me gainfully employed
• my Denzel Washington calendar my coworker Dennis gave me
• my 360/Multiply friends and family who keep me coming back for more

Today is Thursday November 1, 2007 and I will blog a thankful blog everyday this month. If I don't, then throw rocks at my beautiful crystal house.