So, Gail and I were talking this morning and she said I was just like my mother. Huh? Gail please. I admit I have qualities and characteristics like Ms Brenda, but I am NOT Ms Brenda. I do admit to being a tad bit bossy, but I don't think I go overboard with it. NOT saying my mom is bossy or goes overboard with it!
We decided to ask all of my friends if they think I'm bossy and on a scale of 1 to 100 how bossy they think I am. If you know me, please participate. If you think you know me you can vote too. Gail has a number in mind that she thinks people will tend to vote close to. I'm just curious to know how bossy yall really think I am.
If so, how bossy would you rate her on a scale of 1 to 100?
That kiss settled on me & traveled across my body as if
to imitate your fingers searching for buried treasure while caressing me
tenderly the way you tend to caress me…
That kiss haunted me throughout the night…long after you
were gone
That kiss…
That kiss remained with me as if to say it was eager, yes
eager, to tattoo my skin in crevices and places the world will never see..
That kiss…
You kissed me and I let you kiss me…
With a sweet, smooth and powerful exchange of who you are
& who I am…
Me: Yes, with his fingers, hands, lips and other body parts.
BFF: You think so?
Me: I'm not so sure, but let me tell you what my experience when someone says he's "digging me" versus what I actually want to happen when they are really "digging me".
BFF: Ok, what's your experience with that term?
Me: Dude says he's "digging me" but he constantly looking for the next best thing. He actually told me he was constantly looking for the next best thing. If he was really digging me he would have realized that I was the next best thing.
BFF: You can't be open to receive a man like that.
Me: Exactly.
BFF: Oh, I get it. He said he was digging me, but he was calling me bad names and using profanity towards me. I cannot take someone treating me badly. He had to go. I need someone to speak positive words to me.
Me: He said he was digging me but he had a toddler's temper tantrum when I didn't answer the phone on the first two rings. Then when I called him back, he accused me of horrible stuff I didn't even do. I want him to respect my time and be confident in himself.
BFF: I think he got you confused with his other woman.
Me: Or he was just confused period.
BFF: He said he was digging me, but he wanted me to be his chick on the side. Me: That's NOT digging you dear.
BFF: I know. I'm more than enough woman for one man. I'm not sharing and I refuse to take seconds or leftovers.
Me: I got one. He said he was digging me, but he married someone else a few days later.
BFF: What they said and what they did were very contradictory.
Me: Exactly. When someone tells me they are digging me, I expect to see it with their actions. If they are digging me, they treat me with respect and kindness. They use positive words to uplift and encourage. They realize that I am not that other woman. They do not confuse one woman with all women. BFF: Some of them are not open to receive good treatment. They are so guarded they don't trust anybody. It's a vicious cycle.
Me: Because some other woman wronged them, they come at us all crazy like we are that woman or we are gonna wrong them. That's not necessarily true. Granted we are guarded too, but we don't start out with the bad treatment. I believe since they are charged with protecting us and making us feel safe, if they want that love and companionship they claim to want, they should approach us from a position of vulnerability. Women are more than willing to respond in kind and positively to a man who starts out with kindness, honesty and respect. My experience with that term "digging" is plain and simple. That only meant he wanted what he wanted at that time.
BFF: What did he want?
Me: He wanted to either own me, possess me or just have me as toy. I am not a toy. I can be a really good friend when I'm treated right.
BFF: Wow. Women want to love, nurture and be loved.
Be open about who you really are and what you really want. If you don't know, then find out. Dig a little deeper into who you really are. Otherwise you just look like a dog just digging...
What do you mean when you say you are digging someone?
What do you expect from a person when they say they are digging you?
I'm a survivor: a domestic violence survivor. My friends & family are survivors: domestic violence survivors, breast cancer survivors, cervical cancer survivors, ovarian cancer survivors. We are all survivors! I have a HUGE heart for women who experience the pain and suffering we experienced. I want them to know that there is an abundant and better life after all of the pain & fear they live with.
Which is why I recently created an online Team Up for Women fund to support the great work of The Mary Kay Foundation. The Mary Kay Foundation has a two-fold mission: to fund research of cancers affecting women and help prevent domestic violence while raising awareness of the issue.
Whatever you can give will be appreciated, and everything helps women in need. Thank you for your support.
You can also give a quick $5 donation via your cell phone by texting TEAMUP 5023JJ to 80888. Before your phone bill is charged, you will receive a confirmation text that you have to respond "YES" to.
What if your 17 year old went to the store and someone
followed your child home with the intentions of hurting him or her?
What if your 17 year old was armed with Skittles and a can
of tea and someone accused him or her of being up to no good?
What if your 17 year old screamed so loudly and fervently
for his or her life that neighbors heard the pleas and called 911?
What if the person who stalked your 17 year old was told by
authorities to leave your child alone, but this person disobeyed said
instructions from the authorities?
What if someone shot your 17 year old in cold blood and no
arrest was made?
What if the public outcry for justice for your 17 year old went
ignored by the local authorities?
What if American citizens asked for an arrest for the murder
of your child, and no arrest has been made?
I’ve been doing a great job at listening to my gut instincts. It works everytime. My instincts have never failed me. So thankful for that. That’s all I have to say about that for now.
I wrote this back in January of 2008. Thank goodness I'll never have an Aunt Flow issue again. :-)
"A headache (cephalalgia in medical terminology) is a condition of pain in the head; sometimes neck or upper back pain may also be interpreted as a headache. It ranks amongst the most common local pain complaints.
The vast majority of headaches are benign and self-limiting. Common causes are tension, migraine, eye strain, dehydration, low blood sugar, and sinusitis. Much rarer are headaches due to life-threatening conditions such as meningitis, encephalitis, cerebral aneurysms, extremely high blood pressure, and brain tumors. When the headache occurs in conjunction with a head injury the cause is usually quite evident. A large percentage of headaches among females are caused by ever-fluctuating estrogen during menstrual years. This can occur prior to, during or even midcycle menstruation." I guess that explains it. I usually get one headache a month about 2-3 hours before my cycle. However, this month I did not receive the usual headache post card from Auntie Flow. So, I am at the end of my visit from Aunt Flow. Yesterday my boss took me to lunch at Very's Philly Food. I had a Philly Cheese Steak Hoagie. As soon I finished that thing, I got a headache. I STILL have the headache. I am trying to ward it off with a banana.
More from Wikipedia:
"Specific types of headaches include:
A headache may also be a symptom of sinusitis.
Like other types of pain, headaches can serve as warning signals of more serious disorders. This is particularly true for headaches caused by inflammation, including those related to meningitis as well as those resulting from diseases of the sinuses, spine, neck, ears, and teeth." I also found this article about menstrual headaches. I have found that when I exercise, eat right, get the proper amount of sleep, and receive all the good lovin, my PMS symptoms are little to none. I have not been sleeping well this week. I have found myself waking up between 4 am and 4:30 am for the past 5 days. Since Aunt Flow came to town. Man, Aunt Flow is a pain! During my research of menstrual headaches treatment and prevention, I found an article at www.eheadachehelp.com. Unfortunately that article was not much help since I am allergic to aspirin. Well, the headache is subsiding. The banana may have helped. Now I am off to research some Feng Shui.
The birthday weekend started out pretty uneventful.
I took Friday off to go play with my girlfriends at Career Conference in Duluth GA.
We ate lunch at Chipotle on Friday and ALL of us got ill. UGH.
Saturday's lunch was a nice linen affair.
Cheesecake
Flower arrangement that I should have stolen.
Me looking kinda tired.
Bracelet I won! Yay!
Sunday morning was really NICE. I slept in, didn't go to church, didn't watch tv. Went outside for some air and found this iris in the backyard. I thought the dog dug up all my bulbs I planted. Obviously she missed about 3 of them. Yay AGAIN! I thought it was a lovely sight after that storm on Saturday. A sweet birthday present to wake up to.
Sunday I had to get boys from their dad. I went to Christina's to get my gift & a glass of merlot. Company with friends you love is always a treat. I had some birthday cake there and enjoyed the girls.
Sunday night my youngest brother and his wife came over with lilies and a birthday cake. How sweet.
I didn't party this year like I did last year, but this birthday was so sweet to me. I felt loved, special and extremely blessed.
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Hearing your doctor tell you that you have a rare form of
deadly cancer such as mesothelioma and that you will now be required
to undergo mesotheliomatreatment
is a difficult pill to swallow. Finding out you have cancer is not something
you ever dreamed would happen to you; it happens to other people but you never
once thought you would be the recipient of this news. Unfortunately, it happens
all too often. The good news is that many cancer survivors will attest to the
fact that their cancer diagnosis, as horrible as it was, was a life changing
day for them. Becoming a cancer patient forced them to make lifestyle changes
that forever positively changed their lives during the course of their
diagnosis, their treatment and now their recovery. If you have been considering
making a lifestyle change but have yet to make the change, there is no time
like the present to do so.
The National Cancer Institute offers information for cancer
patients about the benefits of physical fitness and cancer; exercising and
becoming physically fit while undergoing cancer treatments is a life changing
action that won’t cure you of cancer, but it will make you healthier. The main
reason why doctorsrecommendphysicalfitnessforeveryone – notjustcancerpatients – is because it is good for your
body, mind and soul. Your body will never look better than it will once you
start exercising regularly. In addition, your body will never feel better than
when you start exercising; and neither will your mind and soul. Exercise
promotes positive hormones in your body. Stress promotes negative hormones. The
stress of cancer and the treatment required to fight your cancer produces so
much negative hormones that it wreaks havoc on your immune system, which needs
to be strong to help deal with cancer treatments and the disease itself.
Exercising produces hormones that fight the bad hormones
caused by stress and improves your immune system. Since your immune system is
what fights infections and illness, this is imperative to fighting cancer. Your
mind will feel better after exercising because of the positive hormones, which
increase your mood and your quality of life. Quality of life is important to
cancer patients because the treatments often make a quality life difficult to
live. In short, exercising not only makes you look better but it will make you
feel better both inside and out.
Your doctor will be pleased to know you are adapting a
healthier lifestyle with cancer. He will help you determine what activities are
good for you while undergoing cancer treatments, such as walking, biking and
swimming. Remember, treatment takes a lot out of you and you may not feel able to
exercise every day, but as often as you can is just as good.
~~David Haas
David is a cancer support group and awareness program advocate at the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance. He researches and writes about cancer support groups and also the importance of fitness on the overall health of a cancer patient.
