Happy Fathers Day! Enjoy your beautiful children today and congratulations on such blessings

$1000 Day in Mary Kay

Help me have $1000 Day in Mary Kay!

Special thanks to all my friends and valued customers.

In appreciation of your help I’m having a one day only sale

Your purchase will help towards my Mary Kay sales goal as I race to the finish line!

“DIALING FOR DISCOUNTS” phone sale especially for you.

My special day will be: June 15, 2011

Call me between the hours of:

8 am & 10 am ... receive 25% discount

10 am & 12 noon ... receive 20% discount

12 noon & 2pm … receive 15% discount

2pm & Midnight… receive 10% discount

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Mark your calendars today not to miss this

super opportunity to stock up on items you love.

Call: (803) 386-9589

Email: keala.m.jacobs@marykay.com

or visit http://www.marykay.com/keala.m.jacobs

Please leave your name, number & product order so that I can get it to you ASAP!!!

Me - Unoriginal? Really?

I was perusing other people’s blogs the other day when I ran across Misty’s Words. I loved her blog. I thought it was quite cute and nice and Original.

Misty wrote an entry about Smorty. She said she loved working with them and the pay was pretty good too.

So, I decided to check them out. Well, I applied. They reviewed my blog. Then today I received an email that said I was declined because:

Dear Keala Jacobs, Unfortunately your blog was declined due to the following reason(s). Some of the content is not original. Once you fix these errors you can re-enter your blog(s) from your admin panel under the My Account section. Smorty

Yes, some of my content is not original. Well, my blog is ME. I post what I want when I want. If Mama sends me an email I like, I will post it. Maybe that is the unoriginal content they were referring to.

Anyway, Keala will continue to blog her way. Not the Smorty way.

See more progress on: get paid to blog

Friends and Vampires

“Please don’t contact me ever again.  You add no value to my life and you drain my energy like a vampire.”

That was a text message I had to send to someone on Tuesday, June 7, 2011.  I had to do it to protect myself from the poison this person was offering me in the guise of “friendship”.  I really don’t know what their definition of friendship is, but it is very different from my definition.

This person would call me at odd hours to cry, complain, and over-analyze most details about their miserable life.  At first I thought I was helping by offering possible solutions on how to cope with stress and love oneself.  However, I quickly realized none of that was working.  I soon found that I was dealing with a miserable person who was totally content in his misery.

I'm NOT sorry, but I DON'T DO MISERY!  Look at the title of my blog.  C'mon people!

The very next day, Wednesday, June 8, 2011, a real friend called me.  Mind you I had not spoken with this real friend in many months.  However, I consider her a real friend because our definition of friendship is the same.  She is not a vampire and she is very supportive.  We may have lost contact for a few months for whatever reasons but we always get back together where we left off.  She is so sweet and I would never do anything to harm her or use her.

I am so grateful for the real friends in my life.  I am also grateful for the wisdom to know the difference and to take the necessary steps to protect my little world from what I call Vampires.

Where do some minions posing as people get off with that “friendship” thing anyway?  I mean this non friend only calls me about his problems and has nothing of value to offer me or my life.  When my sister passed, his attitude was so nonchalant about it.  As a matter of fact, he said he would call me right back when I told him.  He waited over a month before he called me back and offered the most pathetic condolence ever.  And to think, my sister used to tell me to be nice to him.

I am so grateful that I sent that text message.  Life is too short to be trying to please people who care NOTHING about you.  Life is too precious to give time and energy to people who give nothing in return.  My life is too special to me to waste on the waste of this land.

• I associate and befriend people with similar life values as mine
• All of my friends have positive attitudes and they are very loving people
• My friends are healthy and constantly strive to improve themselves
• My friends and associates have much to offer their environments and communities and do so gladly without wanting payment in return
• My friends love themselves and they have a healthy respect for themselves those they encounter
• When people come in contact with my friends, they feel better about themselves
• My friends love life and carry much JOY inside of themselves.
• My friends recognize Vampires and do not associate with such creatures.

Wikipedia has a great article on friendship that I highly recommend.

I just wanted to get that off of my chest.  I feel much better.  Thanks.

Thoughts of a Black Man

My cousin forwarded this email to my bff and me a few years ago.  I was cleaning out my inbox when I ran across this.  I just had to share it.

You know after seeing you today I just had to send this to you and my cousin. Be careful out there and know that I love ya!

Tim

----- Original Message -----

This statement is from a man on Black Voices.

 

 

Bottom line—if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care.  (I stopped that years ago) That kind of sex is like scratching an itch.  Once a man scratches, he's through.  He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it.  He's moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch.

 

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty call.  Come on, ladies, y'all know I'm telling the truth.

 

Unfortunately, ladies you are part of our problem.  You sleep with us BEFORE you know us or what we're about.  Having sex with a man does not automatically make that a "relationship".  Many women will deny they think like this but I'm speaking from personal experience.  Also, ladies know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by getting mad at the other woman.  Now, what kind of sense does that make?  Why should that woman make YOU (a total stranger) a priority in her life?  IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE.  The "other woman" is not breaking up a "happy home".

 

Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn't change who he was.  Why should he change?  YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.

 

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN.  Most shady men give themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days.  Women have to stop "rewarding" unfaithful men by pretending it ain't happening.  All of us Black Men (BM) do not cheat.  I do not cheat on my lady so don't buy the hype.  I know other black men who do not but many men WILL cheat if there are NO real penalties for it.

 

Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON'T KNOW.  That means fewer opportunities for men to cheat.  Women have to STOP being so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle.  Worry less about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women.  OPEN those ears and listen.  Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything?  And don't be so vain.  You are NOT a better woman than his last.  If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.

 

Observe him when you are with him.  Do you have his home number?  Work number?  Have you seen where he lives?  Where he works?  Is he secretive?  Did you ask if he's married or engaged?  How does he treat other people?

 

Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear.  Stop INTERPRETING the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes.  If he says, "I'm not looking' for nothing right now" – DON'T tell yourself, "Aw, he just scared of getting hurt.  I can change his mind."  NO YOU CAN'T.  He said exactly what the hell he meant.  BM don't have to lie when so many BW are already DEAF.

 

If you can't answer BASIC questions about a man DON'T OPEN YOUR LEGS.  I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn't KILL people but now?  There's no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself—sexually AND emotionally.

 

Show our @ss to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon.  Don't be afraid to be alone.  After you give our @ss some you will probably be alone anyway but now you feel like a fool.  In other words, take you time and check us out.  If we REALLY like you, we'll stick around.  BUT if you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and keep your expectations to ZERO.  We do not owe you a relationship or another date just because you had sex with us.  That's not how it works, baby.

 

I have TOO many female friends who give me horror stories that could have been avoided if they'd done their homework first OR moved SLOWER before giving up the panties.  I try as a BM to give them the best advice I can but that won't mean a doggone thing if BW continue to live in a dream world.

 

You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for you own sexual behavior the same as I am.  Blaming the man won't change a damn thing.  BW have to look in the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what's wrong with BM/BW relationships.  Let me end by saying….

 

SEX DOES NOT = A RELATIONSHIP

 

GIVING A MAN READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO

 

A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER BODY

 

IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF

 

IF HE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY WITH HIM?

 

IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS?

 

BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY.  NO YOUR STUFF IS NOT MADE OF GOLD.  IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS.  BELIEVE THAT.

Annabel Lee by Edgar Allan Poe

Annabel Lee by Edgar Allan Poe

Annabel Lee

BY EDGAR ALLAN POE

It was many and many a year ago,

   In a kingdom by the sea,

That a maiden there lived whom you may know

   By the name of Annabel Lee;

And this maiden she lived with no other thought

   Than to love and be loved by me.

I was a child and she was a child,

   In this kingdom by the sea,

But we loved with a love that was more than love—

   I and my Annabel Lee—

With a love that the wingèd seraphs of Heaven

   Coveted her and me.

And this was the reason that, long ago,

   In this kingdom by the sea,

A wind blew out of a cloud, chilling

   My beautiful Annabel Lee;

So that her highborn kinsmen came

   And bore her away from me,

To shut her up in a sepulchre

   In this kingdom by the sea.

The angels, not half so happy in Heaven,

   Went envying her and me—

Yes!—that was the reason (as all men know,

   In this kingdom by the sea)

That the wind came out of the cloud by night,

   Chilling and killing my Annabel Lee.

But our love it was stronger by far than the love

   Of those who were older than we—

   Of many far wiser than we—

And neither the angels in Heaven above

   Nor the demons down under the sea

Can ever dissever my soul from the soul

   Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

For the moon never beams, without bringing me dreams

   Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

And the stars never rise, but I feel the bright eyes

   Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;

And so, all the night-tide, I lie down by the side

   Of my darling—my darling—my life and my bride,

   In her sepulchre there by the sea—

   In her tomb by the sounding sea.

I've always loved this poem.  One of my teachers made us memorize this.  I do not remember which teacher it was or when, but I'm so glad I memorized it.  I love this love he talks about in this poem.  They were children and their love was so strong the Angels envied them.  I want that kind of love.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annabel_Lee

Severe Thunderstorms

Good Morning,

Er, Toto, we might as well be in Kansas… . A very strong low pressure complex to the west heads east leaving a very violent history across Texas, Arkansas, Louisiana. Mississippi and Kentucky. More severe thunderstorms and tornadoes today for Northern Alabama, Georgia and Tennessee. Timing and dynamics, however, are in our favor…. again. The Storm Prediction Center in tornado-wise Oklahoma has a large HIGH-MODERATE probability bulls-eye to the west of us and only a slight chance for severe for the State today valid until tomorrow morning. Best ingredients for widespread severe weather outbreaks translate northeast into NC and VA.

Expect afternoon non-frontal airmass thunderstorms to develop this afternoon in the warm soupy air in place (think bucket of gasoline and toaster…). Isolated cells will be severe with 50-70 mph wind gusts, large hail, heavy rain and frequent lightning. Charming. This activity de-energizes near sunset.

The cold front to the west approaches the Upstate tonight with pre-frontal thunderstorms around midnight. The front enters the Upstate in the dark  near 2-3 AM, Midlands 05-08 AM with strong shear but diminishing  convective available potential energy. Isolated embedded strong to severe thunderstorm with damaging wind gusts to 70 mph, hail and an isolated tornado are fair game, although not with the swarm of tornadoes seen to the west. Models are showing the front slowing as it closes the coast late Thursday, re-strengthening to severe storms over the beaches on max afternoon heating.

33 shopping days until hurricane season.

Today’s forecast cartoon:

The Storm Prediction Center’s Severe Thunderstorm and Tornado Outlook for Today: