Boiled Blood

Sistahs, I’m NOT Happy with some of YOU!

Why?  Because there are some of you who make cheating, no good men feel it’s ok to do what they do.  If I’m blogging, writing, talking to you, then you KNOW I’m talking to you and you should read this entire post to learn something TODAY.   Otherwise, I may be preaching to the choir, and that’s ok because the choir can add input from their perspective in the comments section.

Enablers – Some women are enablers.  They enable a sorry man to continue living a sorry life.   The dictionary defines an enabler as: “one that enables another to achieve an end; especially: one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior (as substance abuse) by providing excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behavior”

I especially like that last part.  The making it possible for the sorry so in so to avoid the consequences of BAD behavior by taking him back time and time again.  Some examples are: women who pay bills for the bad with money man, women who let the no job man live in her house she is paying for while he does nothing to contribute to the household in ANYWAY whatsoever, women who say cheaters are men just being men because all men cheat.  NEWSFLASH:  ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT!!!


Project Managers – Some women are project managers.  They think they can fix or change a man who inevitably becomes a project for them.  Project managers think that having a man, no matter how sorry he may be, is better than NOT having a man.  They think that loving that project and working on it will make it all better.  Not so.

Here’s my beef with all the women who take crap from men over and over again.  When your relationship with SOS (Stuck On Stupid) is over, he comes to a woman like me expecting me to put up with what you put up with.  I AM NOT THAT WOMAN!  I confess, once upon a time I was that woman.  I had to go to counseling and read books and WORK ON ME!  Hence, I’m not that woman. 

• I’ve learned to be content with just me. 
• I’ve learned to live without having my focus be on a man either as my problem or as a solution to my problems. 
• I’ve learned to love me more than I love him. 
• I’ve learned to walk in my destiny and live life on my terms. 
• I’ve learned that I am my own project and I have so much in life to be thankful for than to be taking on special projects. 
• I’ve learned so much.

My hope, desire, prayer is that all Women Who Love Too Much get a clue and stop putting up with mess so these men will stop trying to take that mess to  good women who don’t deserve the mess.

After reading this post, I just realized that I’m inadvertently promoting the Robin Norwood book Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change .  Go read it and read it again and tell me what you think.

Are you or someone you know guilty of anything I've described above?
Do you know anybody who has RECOVERED from this syndrome?
Please share.  I'm so curious.

Dream Bigger

Last Thursday Ann Marie asked me, "Keala, how would your life be different if you had ten times more confidence?"

That question stumped me initially because I consider myself a pretty confident person.  My first thought was, "I cannot be more confident than I am now.  I am very confident."  Then I thought, "Wait a minute.  I could be more confident and people would consider me as BOLD!"

My answer to Ann Marie was, "Ten times more confidence?  I think I'm pretty confident now, but if I had ten times more confidence then I'd be a formidable force to be reckoned with.  I'd be super successful.  I'd be up there with Oprah!"

That's when it dawned on me that I too could stand to up my confidence level.  I too could stand to Dream Bigger.  I use that term "Dream Bigger" because what Ann Marie was really doing was daring me to Dream Bigger, Be Better, Ask for MORE, Live My Best Life.


How would your life be different if you had 10x more confidence?

Keala on Karma

Keala on Karma

I am a firm believer in Karma. I guess that's why I like My Name Is Earl . However, I believe that Karma is a universal law similar to Newton's Laws. Remember this one, "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction?"

You can look at Karma as whatever you do intentionally to others, a similar thing will happen to yourself in the future.

When you ain't living right, your life won't seem right. That's what I believe.  Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A person reaps what he sows.  (Gal. 6:7)

All things whatsoever you would that men should do to you,
do even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.  (Matthew 7:12)

Tzu-kung asked, "Is there one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life?" Confucius answered, "Is not reciprocity such a word? What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others."'

From His Holiness the Dalai Lama's book Path to Bliss:
"Some people misunderstand the concept of karma. They take the Buddha's doctrine of the law of causality to mean that all is predetermined, that there is nothing that the individual can do. This is a total misunderstanding. The very term karma or action is a term of active force, which indicates that future events are within your own hands. Since action is a phenomenon that is committed by a person, a living being, it is within your own hands whether or not you engage in action."

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
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Give your best in everything you do because it will undoubtedly come back to you. kmj

~~Namaste~~